Through the Door

I‘m linking up with @Oliversmadhouse

Ever since my daughter started going to school we’ve had a problem with her going, she would become violent and extremely upset, after about 6 months nothing had changed in fact she was getting even worse, there were days that we couldn’t get her to school something had to change. After some thought we decided that a different school would be a lot easier, the school we had in mind was a lot smaller and it was closer to where we lived.

The first few days were hard, again she didn’t want to go and my legs bore the battle marks, last month we had been given some tablets from the doctors to help her sleep as she could still be running around until gone midnight or singing in bed until about 2 in the morning, we were reluctant to give them to her at first not wanting to go down that road, but after some thought we decided to give then a go after all we had nothing to lose.

That night we gave her the tablet in her drink we couldn’t believe it she was a sleep for 10 pm for the first time since she was 9 months old.

The next morning i woke her up for school, got her dressed and set out, the walk to school was really nice full of chatter until she saw the school gates, all the talking stopped she grabbed my hand, we walked round to her class where her teacher was waiting and she walked straight in, over the next couple of months it was amazing she walked to school with no fuss and could be seen skipping into class.

Then came the May half term holidays after a week off it was time to dig out her school uniform again, on the way to school as always she was talking none stop,  we got round to her classroom door and instead off skipping in she froze and flung both her arms round my leg refusing to let go, her teacher was at the door waiting to welcome the children back into school, she saw Hannah, and came over and spoke to Hannah still she didn’t move, so her teacher took her by the hand and we both walked her to the door, we finally managed to get her in the classroom, where i left her in tear’s.

This happened for the next 3 days me taking her and leaving her in floods of tears, both me and her teacher became concerned and i explained that she had done this before at her last school as well as nursery, and we didn’t know how to help her overcome this big step, her teacher said that she will have a think and see if she could come up with anything.

The next day we set out for school, we got to her classroom door again she froze clinging to my leg, her teacher came over and asked her if she would like to help so and so water the plants and lo and behold she took her teachers hand and walked into class with no tears.

Over the next few weeks it worked wonders, she still froze at the door but as soon as she was assigned to a job she was happy walking into class and leaving me.

As always you can never have too much of a good thing, her teacher came over and said she would like to try and get Hannah in school without giving her a job to do. I could see where she was coming from but i was also worried that she would revert back to her old ways.

So last Tuesday i walked Hannah to school, as we got closer to the gates there was a notice saying that they had found a bee’s nest and we couldn’t go in our usual door instead we had to used a different classes door, Hannah waited until she caught her teachers eye and being asked to go inside before walking into class. She still struggles everyday to go into class but least i’m not leaving her in floods of tears.



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6 thoughts on “Through the Door

  1. I have every sympathy for you and I think you are doing a fab job by the sounds of it. I’m so glad you have a supportive school. We don’t and it would make so much difference if we did. All the best and your daughter will be OK with supportive schooling and lots of love.

  2. Must be so tough seeing her going through all those internal forces before having to go in. She’s making progress, and great you’ve got an understanding teacher who’s trying to think of ways to help.

  3. What a terrible battle this must be but I’m so glad it is getting a little better. I have no idea how I would handle this one. You deserve a big pat on the back :0)

  4. Sounds like a very difficult battle but it looks like you and the teacher are dealing with it very well and things are slowly getting better. Great news that there are no longer tears at the school gate! 🙂

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