Through the Door

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Ever since my daughter started going to school we’ve had a problem with her going, she would become violent and extremely upset, after about 6 months nothing had changed in fact she was getting even worse, there were days that we couldn’t get her to school something had to change. After some thought we decided that a different school would be a lot easier, the school we had in mind was a lot smaller and it was closer to where we lived.

The first few days were hard, again she didn’t want to go and my legs bore the battle marks, last month we had been given some tablets from the doctors to help her sleep as she could still be running around until gone midnight or singing in bed until about 2 in the morning, we were reluctant to give them to her at first not wanting to go down that road, but after some thought we decided to give then a go after all we had nothing to lose.

That night we gave her the tablet in her drink we couldn’t believe it she was a sleep for 10 pm for the first time since she was 9 months old.

The next morning i woke her up for school, got her dressed and set out, the walk to school was really nice full of chatter until she saw the school gates, all the talking stopped she grabbed my hand, we walked round to her class where her teacher was waiting and she walked straight in, over the next couple of months it was amazing she walked to school with no fuss and could be seen skipping into class.

Then came the May half term holidays after a week off it was time to dig out her school uniform again, on the way to school as always she was talking none stop, we got round to her classroom door and instead off skipping in she froze and flung both her arms round my leg refusing to let go, her teacher was at the door waiting to welcome the children back into school, she saw Hannah, and came over and spoke to Hannah still she didn’t move, so her teacher took her by the hand and we both walked her to the door, we finally managed to get her in the classroom, where i left her in tear’s.

This happened for the next 3 days me taking her and leaving her in floods of tears, both me and her teacher became concerned and i explained that she had done this before at her last school as well as nursery, and we didn’t know how to help her overcome this big step, her teacher said that she will have a think and see if she could come up with anything.

The next day we set out for school, we got to her classroom door again she froze clinging to my leg, her teacher came over and asked her if she would like to help so and so water the plants and lo and behold she took her teachers hand and walked into class with no tears.

Over the next few weeks it worked wonders, she still froze at the door but as soon as she was assigned to a job she was happy walking into class and leaving me.

As always you can never have too much of a good thing, her teacher came over and said she would like to try and get Hannah in school without giving her a job to do. I could see where she was coming from but i was also worried that she would revert back to her old ways.

So last Tuesday i walked Hannah to school, as we got closer to the gates there was a notice saying that they had found a bee’s nest and we couldn’t go in our usual door instead we had to used a different classes door, Hannah waited until she caught her teachers eye and being asked to go inside before walking into class. She still struggles everyday to go into class but least i’m not leaving her in floods of tears.

Early night in your dreams

Jan22

After all yesterday’s playing you would think that Hannah might be a sleep earlier than normal

Yeah right if only

First it started with her complaining of belly ache which after going to the loo twice she calmed down

So I went down to carry on reading my book

After a short time she started crying again I take a quick glance at the clock its 11:30pm

I rush upstairs to see what was wrong with her and she’s had worked herself in a right state it took awhile to calm her down and tell me what was upsetting her

The tattoos that she had put on yesterday she said that she didn’t want them on now for school tomorrow told her we would wash them off in the morning and that everything would be fine settled her back down

Midnight

Returned to my book so I could finish the chapter before climbing the stairs for bed

I’d only been downstairs 3 mins and more screaming erupted running back upstairs she was scratchings at her arms saying she just wants them off she was so worried about going to school with her tattoos on it was too late to wash them all off as she had put on 14 tattoo’s again I settled her down hoping that she would fall to sleep

There’s not a night that goes by that something hasn’t upset her about going to school whether its the clothes she’s going to wear or the walk there she even crosses of the days I’ve wrote on her calander that are for school she thinks that if she crosses them off then its not going to happen

Went back downstairs and finally finished my chapter and at 12:45 climbed the stairs for bed

Went in her room to see if she was asleep her eyes where wide open said goodnight

Then climbed into bed and was just drifting off to sleep when I can hear her singing a quick glance at the clock and its 1:15

Arrrr why won’t she sleep

Snow fun

Jan21

The other day I notice these ice marbles making the rounds on the Internet and so had to give them a try

So first we went to asda to pick up some supplies

1 pack of balloons
6 bottles of food colourings

we found it was better to put the food colouring in first then fill them with water and left them outside in the snow at night I checked them and they still hadn’t froze so pick a few and placed them in a bag then put them in the freezer

This morning as hannah’s school was closed because of the snow I went to check the ones in the freezer and they was ready to go

Hannah had a really good time playing with these

Then we came in for lunch and to warm up

After a while we decided to make some more snowmen on the front after a bit of time out there we where joined by one of our neighbours children it was so nice seeing them play together making little snowmen then the neighbour the other side came out to play as well and all three helped each other build a snowman

The little boy went back home so hannah and her friend from next door came in and started playing with her ponies hannah was showing her the tattoos that she put on and wanted to put some more on so they both picked out a few and went off upstairs to put them on

Hannah’s

Her friends

Its really been a fun snow day

Looking back 2012

Dec29

I don’t know about you but I always like looking back over the year this year has been a really good one

I’ve been surprised at some of the photo’s and how much my children have changed in them

This year we have seen some big birthdays the first was that Hannah turned 5 and for her 5th birthday she became a farmer for the day which she still talks about to this day

Then Josiah turned 18 and for his 18th we took him out for a family meal and brought him his first pint

Also this year Hannah’s swimming has reached new highs first she moved up to the big pool in her swimming lessons and she also joined the local swimming club which has done wonders for her swimming and just before they broke up for the Christmas holidays saw her move up to the competition pool as well she’s also gained quite a few new badges as well reaching her 400 meters

We also received some good news the treatment the dentist said sam would need to straighten his tooth wasn’t needed after lots of appointments with different specialist

This year also saw us move into a new house with the help from some friends it went very smoothly and Hannah’s made great friends with the new neighbours

Sam started a new era in his life he left school and started college which for him was a big thing as he’s autistic but with the help of his brother has gone smoothly

Hannah also started school which hasn’t gone as smoothly but where getting the help needed

We also saw the great show this country has seen in a long time the Olympic games the torch going through towns and cities making people feel apart of it following the touch until it arrived in London where the opening of the games and what a opening it was thousands gathering around the TV

Then came the games themselves the athletes put on a wonderful show and the whole country got behind them the medals just kept coming gold sliver and bronze it was sad saying goodbye to the Olympic and Paralympics games but it was so nice seeing the whole country come together

This year has been so packed we’ve been to loads of places baked a loads of cakes and had some wonderful memories so as this year is coming to an end here’s to next year and what ever it has install for us we will grab it with both hands and celebrate ♥

Miracles do happen

Dec11

This week has started really well

Yesterday Hannah got up in a great mood she was up and out of bed for 8:15 without any fuss no screaming no kicking

I got her dressed and carried her downstairs first thing she did was open her calendar

Breakfast time went smoothly as well after breakfast she had her hair done while I did her sandwiches for school she got herself ready getting her boots on and coat she was even ready before me for once

We left the house at 8:45 a record in our books

The walk to school was nice as well she wanted to count how many dogs she saw on the way but ended up counting birds nests as there where no dogs out

We got to school for 9:15 yet again another record broken

She had a good day at school as always we went to asda for a drink and because she woke up and went to school nicely she got some sweets as well

When we got home I wanted to keep the happy Hannah so I got out the Christmas cards so she could write them out for her friends at school when she had finished she watched a bit of telly

Tea-time came and went without any hiccups she couldn’t wait to get to swim club we always arrive early and she sits at the edge of the pool while the ones before her finish off there lesson but this week the swim coach asked if it was OK for Hannah to show them how she does her breathing which she was eager to do as she loves being in the water then she had to show them how to do a front crawl

Time for her swimming club practice and this week they were going in the big pool after a quick warm up and a run through they all went through and one by one they had to do 1 length of back stroke and 1 length of front crawl at the end

her swimming coach said she definitely needs to be in this pool but as she’s leaving next week she wants to keep her for just 1 more lesson so after Christmas she will be full time in the big pool which means she can go more then 1 day a week

Its been a very full day for Hannah but she still didn’t go to sleep until 11

When we went to bed it was all talk about her swimming and what a great day it was and then the worry of what tomorrow bring

Tuesday morning

Went to wake Hannah up and got a no so went for a cuppa and gave it 10 mins

Went back up and woke her again and she was more willing managed to get her dressed and carried her down breakfast went well and managed to get out the door without any problems

It was a frosty walk which got us talking about the different footprints and markings left by dogs and pushchairs

she wondered they the sun hadn’t melted the frost so had to explain that it was to cold

We walk through the school doors at 9:10 record time woohoo I just hope she has a great day at school

It seems that taking her out of the school plays was the right decision

To be or not to be

Dec6

At this time of year there very busy at school

Christmas plays
Carol service
Party’s

Hannah’s been talking about her school play from last month she was fine with everything but as the days have got closer the less she was eager to discuss it

Monday she came out of school telling us that she was going to be a elf in the play

Tuesday morning came and everything was going well we even arrived at school before 10 which to say she walked was a great achievement that was until we walked in the door at school where one of the staff had a go at her for being late and missing most of the plays rehearsal telling her that she should be in early tomorrow so she knows what she’s doing in the play

That evening wasn’t very pleasant she was in a right bad mood shouting at everyone throwing things around we wondered what had happened not putting 2 and 2 together

Wednesday morning comes and what a change there was in her the screaming was back and so was her fighting I got kicked punched and nearly bit

She was screaming saying she doesn’t want to go to school wouldn’t get ready kicking me while I’m trying to get her shoes and socks on we’ve not had anything like this for 3 weeks something must have set her off

Finally we got her ready for school and out the door she seemed calmer so as we walked to school I asked her why she didn’t want to go to school and she said that she didn’t want to take part in the school play

This came as a bit of a shock

My first thought was that I should try and persuade her to take part but then that was my feelings as a parent we all want to see our children take part in the Christmas play

But I have to put aside my feelings because Hannah comes first I know deep down that its the right choice so I’m going into school and having a word with her teacher and telling her that Hannah doesn’t want to be part of the play and to explain that it is causing lots of anxiety at home

She’s in love

Nov29

Hannah revealed the other week that she’s got a boyfriend

It all started when she was teasing sam saying Sam’s got a girlfriend repeating it over and over again until he got fed-up and said “Hannah’s got a boyfriend”

Which she replied that she had and told us how he was which had us all gob smacked

This week she said that she loves him

The other day she played a game of chase the boyfriend at dinner time

Its sweet she talks about him all the time

You have to love young love 🙂

From bad to better and back again

Nov23

Today started like any other fighting to get Hannah to school in the morning

It takes us about 3 hours from waking to her stepping foot in the door don’t get me wrong she absolutely loves school but she hates the walk there

Today I’ve been bit, kicked and punched

By the time we was walking to school I had a massive headache from her constant screaming

Finally we got her into school and I could let out a huge sigh of relief

Before going home we went to asda for a nice cup of strong coffee when we got home it was 12 o’clock not much of the day left but managed to clean one of the rabbits out and get ready to go out for lunch with Hubby’s parents

We enjoyed a nice carvery and slowly my headache was vanishing it was so nice sitting there with the conversation flowing

Then hubby banged his hand where he got burned over 5 weeks ago and his scab came off and it didn’t look very healthy so the decision was taken that we would get Hannah from school and go straight to the doctors

Hannah thankfully came out of school very happy and off to the doctors to see if they could fit him in

They got him in and was seen within minutes the news was not good his hand was badly infected the burn has gone right down to his tendon he’s got a week to see if it will start healing if not then its a hospital thing so where keeping our fingers crossed

After leaving the doctors me and Hannah went swimming it was great being back in the water with her splashing around going down the slides just genuinely having fun after a few hours of playing it was time to leave and go home

As soon as we walked in the door Hannah got out her homework and set about completing it which didn’t take long as it was maths

Teatime courtesy of our local chip shop

What a full day of emotions being shaken around thank God its the weekend